Most parents ask about whether the program involves “crying it out,” so I want to address the issue of crying right away.
I will never ask you to leave your child to cry alone while your child is first leaning independent sleep. I also won’t ask you to ignore your child’s cries. We will work together to develop a plan that you feel comfortable with, based on what you know about your child.
Parents are hard-wired to react in distress when babies cry. Many parents will do anything to stop crying. I will assist you to comfort and soothe your child during sleep changes.
However, some crying during sleep changes (like crying during any habit change) is normal. It is your child’s way of protesting the change. When your child cries from habit changes, he or she is saying, “I don’t know how to do this.”
When you are with your child, comforting and nudging your child in the direction of sleep, your child will cry a lot less. Your child’s stress will be a lot less than if you left your child to cry. And even less than if you checked on your child every few minutes.
I will show you how to watch for signs of success, even while your child is protesting change. Signs of success are signs that your child is actively working to put himself or herself to sleep, and these can look like: sucking on hands and fingers, kicking legs, turning head from side to side, rolling onto one side, bringing a blanket or lovey up to the face, and more.
The program works because I’ll show you a simple, step-by-step process that includes exactly what to do every day and night. And I stay with you every step of the way.
There’s no confusion. There’s no guessing. I’ll explain to you WHY the steps are important and then support you completely as you follow them. The plan is customized to your child. A sensitive child will respond better to one approach, whereas an active child will respond better to another.