Asheville Pediatric Sleep Consultant
About Kim Rogers
- Member, National Association of Professional Sleep Consultants.
- Certified Sleep Sense Consultant.
- Tuck Sleep Foundation top 200 Sleep Consultant in the U.S.
- 2016 Infant Mental Health Certificate Training, The Hospital for Sick Children in Toronto.
- PSI -- Postpartum International -- 2020 MOM Maternal Mental Health Certificate Training.
- M.A., University of Southern Mississippi.
- B.S., Biology and B.A., English (both) Wofford College.
- Diploma, Therapeutic Massage, Carolina School of Massage and Wellness
- Certificate, Thai Yoga Bodywork
- 200-hr YA Registered Yoga Teacher, Asheville Yoga Center.
Pediatric Sleep Consultant in Asheville
My Story (Confessions from a former bed-sharer):
Like many parents who look for sleep solutions, my situation was once dire. I was a new mom. My child (a premie diagnosed with GERD -- severe reflux) and I were sleep-deprived from the very beginning. Everyone I encountered asked me if my baby was sleeping yet. Everyone said, “sleep when the baby sleeps”. Everyone had advice for me: co-sleeping, formula, mix rice cereal with formula. The list goes on.
To add to that, I was a solo parent. From my first trimester, I dreamed of being like the independent, trail-blazing solo moms that I admired: Maya Angelou, J.K. Rowling, Anne Lamott. But my reality was that I was scared and isolated with no tangible support or anyone to call upon to come help. People brought food my first week home, but after that, even former acquaintances seemed to look the other way.
The last of many sleepless, tear-filled nights was the night that I made my decision to get help. I told myself that the world is full of solutions and that my child and I shouldn't have to suffer like this. I was determined to find out what to do to help both of us, and I did -- the very next day.
I can say to this day that that being sleep deprived with a sleep-deprived, constantly crying baby was the hardest time of my life. As hard as it is to admit this, I would not be around today if I hadn’t learned how to help both of us. I couldn’t go on like that. I felt like I was dying or that I would accidentally drop my baby. I was so scared and beyond exhausted. Exhaustion is not even the word for it.
I now know that sleep is a learned skill. My child (like the children I work with) learned independent sleep skills very quickly when given the chance. Sleep, along with carefully timed feedings and bedtime feedings (instead of feeding/vomiting all night) improved his reflux more than any amount of medication. He relaxed and slept throughout the night, and his digestion improved! He slept through the night for 10 hours on the 2nd night and 12 hours on the 3rd night. I never once left his side while he was falling asleep. I never left him to “cry it out” but instead, I talked to him, comforted him and offered him soothing touch while he fell asleep at bedtime and for each night waking.
He cried less while he was learning to go to sleep on his own than he did those endless weeks and months before, while I was doing so much intervening. As for his cries, they were very different, and I learned to listen to him. I learned that my child’s cries were protest cries. He was saying, “I don’t know how to do this.”
To say the least, sleep was life-changing for this solo parent. It was life-changing for my son. He went from an irritable, frustrated, exhausted baby who cried most of the day, to a happy child who laughed and ate well.
A while after that, I started to notice something happening around me. I noticed that sleep was the biggest topic of conversation in the mom’s groups that I was a part of. I noticed that sleep deprivation and a need for sleep help was the most common problem for moms everywhere. And the most common fear about making sleep changes is “cry it out.”
In those mom’s groups, I noticed moms telling other moms never to attempt any sleep training because it’s the same as neglecting a crying baby. I noticed moms telling other moms never to sleep train because babies need to sleep beside their moms. I noticed moms telling each other that babies wake because they need their moms and for no other reason. Overall, the lack of understanding around infant and child sleep behaviors, gentle sleep training and infant stress inspired me to help the parents who were sincerely asking for help because their babies were so sleep deprived and because they themselves were so sleep deprived that they could not show up for their babies and families.
I wanted everyone to know that there is hope for every family situation if they want it. Gone are the days of cry it out. Gone are the days of putting a baby in a room alone, as if that’s the only way for everyone to get sleep. Gone are the days of one-size-fits-all sleep solutions.
Even though it has been a couple of years since my dark, sleep-deprived days, I will never forget that time. I remember and empathize with every family I work with.
I know how hard it is, but I also know that you and your family can experience deep, restorative sleep again too. I would be grateful to guide you along the way.
Here's What You Get:
- Expertise. I was trained in all aspects of the Sleep Sense™ Program by founder, Dana Obleman, and I continue an extensive one-on-one mentorship with her. Through Sleep Sense, I receive continuing education classes. I also receive continuing education classes through the Association of Professional Sleep Consultants. Since 2003, the Sleep Sense™ program has helped over 57,000 parents. This program is so highly regarded that a very large, prominent group of family doctors came together to learn all about it. It has been featured on numerous syndicated radio shows, in newspapers, magazines, and in television spots. Bottom line: These methods work, and they are trusted by parents and doctors alike.
- Comprehensive Evaluation. Following an in-depth questionnaire and consultation, I will make a comprehensive evaluation of sleep routines, patterns and pitfalls.
- Your Sleep Plan. Easy to follow, step-by-step plan that is customized to your child and family situation.
- Care. Follow-up for 2 weeks (up to 11 months old) or for 3 weeks (12 months and older). At least 4 phone calls, coaching and daily email support to ensure that your questions are fully answered and that your baby is sleeping well. As your pediatric sleep consulting expert in Asheville, NC, I will help you find success with your baby's rest and sleep habits.